It didn’t take long for it to happen. I knew that 2017 was going to have some great movies, but I totally forgot what terrible films were coming out too.

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As part of the New Year’s Eve celebration (I don’t know who was celebrating when they saw this), the latest 50 Shades of Grey movie trailer was released. The movie, called 50 Shades Darker, will be released in February, just in time for Valentine’s.

The Internet blew up when the first movie came out, and I’m sure it is going to happen again. And it will happen again when the third and possibly fourth movie come out.

So, before a second trailer drops (or a racier one, thank God this one wasn’t anything like the first movies), I wanted to assert our position here at Christian Thought Sandbox. I want to touch on what we believe about men and women, about their relationship, and the place of BDSM in a Christians life. We’ve talk about some of these things before, and I’ll link to those articles. What we haven’t talked about we will discuss in greater depth later on.

1. Sex Is Not For Strangers

God created sex for husband and wife, a married couple. It was and is to be shared together after the marriage ceremony. Sex is not only for procreation, but for the enjoyment and pleasure of perfect and holy union. Sex is the fulfilled of a vow of sacred love, not a foretaste. Sex comes after marriage, not before.

(I am not saying this to condemn, rather to share what God’s perfect plan is, even if we do not follow it.)

50 Shades of Grey and every film after that will be a celebration of premarital sex, in all of its fetish and high definition “glory”. It will exalt the experimentation and exploration of the human body as a sexual object to be used.

There are glaring differences between what God and 50 Shades cannot be understated, nor should they be overlooked. The gospel that 50 Shades Of Grey is preaching about marriage, relationships, and sexuality do not compare to what God has said in Scripture.

Sex is not for strangers, but for a husband and wife after marriage. This should be upheld by Christians everywhere.

“And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.” – Genesis 2:23-25 KJV

2. Equality, Not Superiority

When God created mankind, He made man and woman. Two different and distinct sexes and genders that perfectly complimented each other. This relationship was not a hierarchy, it was a partnership. God created Adam and Eve to work together, not Eve as Adam’s slave, nor Adam as Eve’s slave. Not slaves for doing work, and not slaves for sex.

Whatever message 50 Shades is trying to tell you, whether it is “submission to a dominatrix is fine and good” or “it’s okay to oppress and beat down someone”, it is not consistent with the gospel of love and sacrifice that God spoke of and Jesus lived out.

We talked exclusively about the Husband-Wife Dynamic here in our B.A.M. Series if you want to know more.

“So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.” – Genesis 1:27 NIV

3. BDSM has no place in a healthy Christian relationship

Not to get to deep into this here, but there is no reason that any Christian couple is participating in BDSM. If you don’t know or have never heard of that term before, BDSM stands for Bondage, Domination or Discipline, Submission or Sadism, and Masochism. These are now popularized sexual fetishes, because of books like 50 Shades of Grey and many others.

While there are differences and nuance to each part of it, this aspect of them remains the same: someone is beating/abusing/dominating/belittling the other in a sexual content. And enjoying it.

This is not the type of love that the Bible calls Christians to be living in. For so many reasons. But I’ll only list one here. We’ll talk more about this before the 50 Shades premiers.

The love that Christian husbands and wives are to have for each other is based in the love that Jesus has for us. Consider what Paul calls husbands and wives to live like and compare it to the messages of 50 Shades of Grey.

“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” – Ephesians 5:22-33 NIV

There is no comparison. They are nothing alike. There is no reason that Christians should like or be ‘loving’ on their spouse in a way that resembles anything from the 50 Shades of Grey books. Instead, their marriage, even their sex lives, should be symbolic and emblematic of the love Jesus showed to us on the cross.



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